Kazza, I told T that if coming to therapy means I am to socialise more then I'm quitting. T just said, "I don't think therapy means you have to socialise more". 9yrs on that is still my mantra, Perhaps not as vehemently and T just says "you've never waviered from that have you". She doesn't interfere in that. She continues with doing therapy and allowing me to unfold as I will. Not as she wants me too.