I like the trigger icon for things which will probably offend people. I don't like censorship at all. I'd rather hear what someone has to say and not like it, than to have them keep it to themselves and present a false picture to me.

The reason I like trigger icons is because if someone will be bothered by what is posted they can always choose not to read it. A little explanation in the title or at the beginning of the article is all it takes. I think if you know something will offend you, and you choose to read it, then you automatically take responsibility for that.

Now, this pretty much applies to things you can expect people to be triggered by. But this is a forum for people with mental disorders. I've seen people get upset over very benign conversations. You can't please everyone. Why bother trying? My view, when I get offended, is that it's my own problem and I need to learn to deal with it somehow. If I'm not moving forward then none of the rest of it matters anyways. It doesn't have much to do with forgiveness and the other person. It has more to do with how I'm going to handle difficulties in my life.

This is different than an actual attack though. When someone actively goes out of their way to hurt you, then you're automatically in a confrontational situation. That makes most people angry. It should.

Forgiving after should be for one's own sake. It keeps you from having to carry that weight around. I've stopped believing in making sacrifices so we can 'just all get along' though.