How were you dx'd? Are you so sure it is antisocial? Provocatively manipulative sounds borderline to me. Of course there is a theory that it is the same thing and women tend to be called bpd and men aspd (but not you).

Have you gone through a complete neuropsychological testing (MMPI, personality testing, SCID, the full battery of tests)? If you have not, I highly recommend it.

I have AS traits, according to the testing, but not full-blown disorder. I have full-blown borderline.