Christina, I would say the answer to Q1 is ANY and the answer to Q2 is NONE!

I carried around similar thoughts of being unlovable for many, many years; justifying those thoughts from a failed 20 year marriage, several close friendships that ended, and conflict with family members. It wasn't until just recently when I realized that it was me who didn't love me. And that's what I've been focusing on for the past nine+ months and will continue to define myself, accept myself, and finally, love myself.

I don't know if this helps at all, but I wish you the best in finding the answers that help you!!