Dear SerentiysWave,

((((((( HUGS ))))))) - I know that you are not asking your husband to meet all your emotional needs, but that you are just asking him to meet the needs you have that only your SPOUSE can fill.... I have been there and understand.
And YES, while what the others on here have been saying is true that you need to have some of your needs fulfilled by others in your life (for no one person can do that for you) and that you need to find something that makes you happy from within..... YOU still need your heart to be filled by the one you love.... or all the other things / people will not matter.

I have been married for 20 years and while I needed certain things from my husband to feel loved as ME the FEMALE, I also failed to see how he was loving me as HIM the MALE.... working to support his family, doing things around the house, asking me to play paintball with him, watching football with him on the couch etc.... What I was missing here was that while I the woman wanted to bond thru emotions / intimacy - that my husband the man was bonding with me while we did things together (diff if the species).

NOW - knowing all this helped me to see that I was indeed LOVED and being LOVED by my husband (in his own way) just different from how I needed to feel love / cherishment.... so with that knowledge I was able to relax and not push so hard.... and in time we talked about what each other needed to FEEL LOVED by the other one - He named his top 5 things and I named my top 5 things and then we tried to make at least 3 of them happen on a weekly basis.


LoVe,
Rhapsody - (hoping some of that info helps)