Thanks both - I had missed Tomi's response the first time. I am sorry to hear about what Karla et al did to you. I agree that my stepmom should stay with her kids and in fact that's what ended up happening this visit and the last. I think what needs to change is that in the future, she PLANS to stay with one of them instead of with me. That way, if my stepbrothers won't commit to her stay ahead of time, then it's her issur with them and she can't accue me of not communicating with them. I also like Tomi's idea to changing to hoping that they'll do something else that doesn't involve me. Seems like a last resort, but I don't see too many other options at thi point. I've already tried talking to her, and I can't get through. Thanks guys.