Welcome to PC, I'm so glad you are here! I'm sorry for the situation you are in.
I don't know what I can do to help, but I would encourage you to try and get out of that situation. I know if you stay in that situation things will likely get worse! If you are supporting him financially can you just move away? Find a new start? I hear you are asking for help, I believe you want out of that relationship. People here can offer you support and encouragement to move in that direction.
Thanks so much for posting and I hope to keep hearing from you on here!
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"Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it." - Helen Keller
Strange how people who suffer together have stronger connections than those who are most content. –Bob Dylan
“If you can't fly then run, if you can't run then walk, if you can't walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.” Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.