So my mom and I are very close, but it seems that my T can be kind of critical of her. One of hte things my T says that both my parents do is minimize things a lot. So today I called my mom, very stressed out about a possible bed bug infestation in my apartment, and her and my dad started laughing about it and telling me I was making too big a deal out of it, etc. Then she started comparing my situation to when she first moved to America and there were roaches everywhere in her apartment, so basically I should be able to survive this. This is not the first time this has happened, that my mom has laughed about something that is important/stressful to me.
SO then I said to her, "My therapist says you minimize things." And she got very sarcastic and started saying, "Oh OK, I'm so sad that you might have bed bugs in your apartment. Wow, that's so horrible." Then she got mad and said that my therapist should know better and that minimizing things is the way people survive life. Then the call dropped, and she thought I hung up on her, and so she texted me and told asking for my T's number and that she was going to call her and tell her to stop meddling in things that weren't her business and that I am too dependent on her. SO of course I got scared and called my mom, and she calmed down and said that she would not call my T. I was still really worried though, so I didn't bring anything up about my T or the bed bugs and just let my mom talk about their trip to Georgia to bring my brother back to college. I was just really quiet the whole time.
I just feel so awful right now. I guess I feel like it is my fault because I do talk about things my T says to my mom, I mean obviously not everything, but like I said, my mom and I are really close. Now I feel so stupid to have done that. Also, my dad was in the car and I know he does not like my T and I am kind of paranoid he will call her. TBH, I don't think that anything will happen, but it still worries me and makes me feel incredibily stupid for confiding to my mom about certain things that my T says. Like I said, I definetely don't tell my mom everything or even most of it, but I feel like it is my fault. Also, I do love my T very much and I feel kind of protective of her.
I just got so worried that I kind of shut down and let her talk about whatever she wanted to talk about just so she could forget about calling T. What makes it more complicated is that starting at the end of hte month my mom will be paying my T bills because I can't anymore because of my financial situation. IDK what to do. Obviously will not be talking to my mom anymore about T, I shouldn't have done it in the first place. But do I mention it to T? I don't want T to think I just freely talk about what goes on in our sessions to my mom or anything. IDK, advice please, it would be so appreciated right now.