My therapist thinks that for some people, particularly those who missed out on having a safe dependable relationship in childhood, that it's part of the process and normal to come to depend on a therapists help. She considers it a bit like growing up again, a place you don't stay forever, but a stage you need to move through.

I also have always tried to be very independent. I was throughout childhood, so it's been hard for me to really trust and rely on having help and support there when I need it. I think it naturally progressed to what it is now, as over time the help and support has stayed as solid and consistent and dependable as I've needed.

I think the amount of dependence that will develop is probably quite unique to each individual. I almost wish I felt a bit more like you do...but then again, it's nice to have someone I can and do depend on for the first time in my life.