I have a healthy attachment to my therapist. I don't worry about abandonment. I don't have problems trusting him. I don't think of him as anything other than my therapist (don't think of him as, or long for him to be, my friend or lover or parent). I accept that he is a fallible human being and can forgive his short-comings pretty easily.

We have a mutual respect for each other as people. We are very open and honest with each other; I don't worry that he'll reject me for anything that I tell him. We each hold healthy boundaries and respect each other's boundaries.

I am naturally more dependent on him when I am in crisis, but I have learned more about how to cope effectively with a crisis when it does come up so it isn't such a feeling of desparation for his help anymore as it used to be. I have no qualms about asking him for his help and support when I need it.