I was molested by my brother who is 4 yrs older than I starting at age 8 til about 14.

My husband of 34 yrs knows about everything and has lived through 34 years of mental and emotional abuse from me due to my abuse. I have been in counseling for the past 4 years, but I can not open up to my husband or be carefree with him as I am with other people. It's like he still gets the "abused" me and the others get the person I would rather be.

Could I be projecting my brother onto my husband in that I cannot be the "unabused" like I so desperatly want to? My husband is about the same age and built as my brother. I've never really thought about it, but someone suggested this as a possibility.