You've definitely done your homework. That's really good. It really helps to have a therapist that knows what's going on and is helping you make the best of it without you becoming angry.

Having stated your reasons for staying for the kids' sake makes a lot more sense now. I'd have to say I'd probably stick around under those circumstances as well. It's one thing to get them out of a bad situation into something better, but it's another thing completely to take them out of a workable situation and put them into something bad, not just slightly uncomfortable because it's different.

Good luck with whatever you choose to do. It looks like you really have your head on straight considering the circumstances. I'm sorry you had to be hurt by your husband.