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Originally Posted by Shayatanica
Moodcycles: I'm not an idiot. I know that features =/= a PD. And I do have a lack of empathy but when it comes to a point in which I am sacrificing my own well being in the process, it's no longer something I can cope with. ASPD, or even antisocial features, is not synonymous with self-defeating or sadistic behaviour. And just because I may or may not have something, it doesn't mean I don't seek objective opinions on a life situation just the same as anyone else. And just because one has a PD does not mean they persistently lack self-awareness. I've always been aware, even during my mood swings & psychosis... Not something a lot of people can say for themselves but I guess I'm rare in that sense. So thank you for providing me with an incredibly generic & useless response that does not address my original issue at all. Much appreciated.
And I was certainly 18 when he made that assessment. I promptly left after seeing that. I'm not particularly thrilled with that notion myself!! I function too well for it to be a "disorder"; at least until now. I thought my boyfriend was an exception to the rule but now I'm not so sure.
I suppose I must attempt to work this through on my own...]
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I have just been through a similar experience but reacted differently. I hate to be self-righteous, and I too have shoplifted in very small quantities repeatedly and might do it again, so I am by no means a saint, but I do want to give you feedback and offer an alternative way to behave. Then you choose what to do with it.
I have posted a thread today on something that makes me sad and afraid. I will not provide a pointer to the thread because I do not want to put the other person on the spot. In general terms, I described problem A and mentioned
explicitly that I do not have problem B. In response, I get a long lecture on how to deal with problem B. (I find the lecture pretty condescending, btw). And good wishes.
I did not, in response, point the place in my admittedly long post where I say that I do not have problem B. I did not say that the poster does not take the time to read and rushes to post without noticing critically important information. I was annoyed, but I saw that the person was well-meaning. I acknowledged it. So I just stated that I do not have problem B and explained what helps me not to have it.
I feel that Moodcycles was well-meaning and even if she was not spot on, did not deserve your response.