Are you in therapy for the AvPD? If so, what kind and do you think it is helping? Is there a particular reason why you fear being hurt by men? Looking at you from the outside, I find it very unlikely that you do not have a personal daily life -- but I do recognize that you feel like that. Personal things can be things like your likes and dislikes, sports or art that you like, books, what happened when you were on your way to and from work -- things that affect you and your feelings personally. Maybe you don't feel comfortable discussing feelings and other things which affect you personally with your family?