I feel I have a strong and healthy attachment to my T. I do not feel dependent on him, though. I don't equate attachment and dependence. But I do rely on him for a lot. I rely on him to always have my best interests at heart and to act accordingly. I rely on him to willingly explore the deep and dark places within me that hold me back in life. I rely on him to keep my confidence. He is very reliable! But I don't feel dependent on him, which I imagine to be that I can't make decisions without phoning him up for advice, that I can't wait the full length of time between sessions without contacting him even if there is no crisis, etc. I am very comfortable with the boundaries of our relationship and don't wish to be his friend or a member of his family. I don't feel jealous of his other clients. I liked the list from autorelica. The one that has given me some trouble earlier was #2. If I called my T about something, he would often not call me back (ever). I don't call my T to do phone therapy so there was always a reason, such as I needed to reschedule. It made me wonder if I had breached a boundary by calling him since he didn't call back. But as time passed, I realized he was just bad on the phone and disorganized, and it was nothing personal. He messed up with phone calls to other clients too. Now that I know this about him I just don't phone him, since it is such a hit or miss method of communication. I think what bothered me about those times wasn't so much attachment-related, but that I worried I was crossing boundaries. It can be hard to disentangle all this stuff sometimes.