Alot of times when I'm saying things to another person, especially in disagreement or voicing an opinion that might not be popular, I ask myself if it would upset me if someone were to use the words to me that I'm getting ready to type/say. It's helped me to reframe what I want to say and still get my point across just as well.

In other words, instead of saying, "What's up with your attitude?" I might say, "It seems that you're upset. That's my impression. would you like to discuss it?'

GL.

KD