Well... state things as nicely as you can. The very fact that each of us TRIES to be polite is important. Our intentions are good. I doubt few intend to offend here. That you are concerned is the first step. Some others here haven't made that step yet

You could even add something to your signature line, W I Fighter...that addresses your "finding your voice" and struggling with phrasing things nicely. I'll work with anyone who continues to try.