No, Shirley. DON'T shut up. Hard as it is to believe, we all need to learn communication. Some of us err on the "gentle" side and some on the "harsh" side. Some don't speak up. That's the worst of all!
I understand COMPLETELY what you're feeling. I've been there, too! Heck! I'm still getting it for saying it like it is! There's a few of us here like that.
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Psalm 119:105 Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path.