man, oh , man......i'm a substance abuse counselor and if i ever saw someone who needs to be in a re-hab center.....your wife does. let me tell you why i feel so strongly about this.

1. she is going to either hurt herself or someone.

2. you're an enabler.

3. using your profession and your "a" type personality as an excuse of being hard to live with is a cop-out on getting her some help.

4. it won't hurt for her to be madder than an old wet hen if she goes to treatment.

5. tiptoeing around a drunk makes about as much sense as tiptoeing in front of a freight train.

6. get therapy for yourself and be damned with your reputation. do you think all those people that seek you out are perfect. when pigs fly!

7. stop making excuses for her. that comes under enabling and facilitating.

8. let a Pdoc decide what meds she needs.

9. get into Al-anon. it shouldn't make you one iota's difference where you have to go to get to a meeting, if you want recovery for yourself and your wife.

10. get mad at me...i've been married to an alcoholic and i understand where you're at. back then, all that was available was lying for him and being miserable. i finally wised up and got out.
i wish you tons of luck and love. but YOU have to step up to the plate and do it asap. and when her counselors confront you about getting help for yourself, do it. if you want the marriage to work, you are going to have to work very hard on yourself also. xoxoxo pat