I think anyone would feel hurt about being left out like this. That's the primary thing I think, although the fact they are able to do things I can't afford and want to do would make it worse. Can you save up for a budget version a little at a time? Maybe invite the not hideous ones along? I don't get along with everyone in my family either, though I repaired things with my Mom in her old age. It's sad when it's family, but not everyone is going to understand you. Sometimes a parent at one extreme produces a child who reacts by going to the opposite extreme and they don't get each other at all. I was glad that I let go of the pain she caused me so that I could build something new with her as an adult. Since I was no longer angry with her she finally let go of her defensiveness about what she had done and we were able to move forward. I think she was never deliberately cruel though, the way this sounds. Maybe there is some secret distorting things.