I kind if wish my T would use a term of endearment with me, just to see what it feels like. I didn't really get that when I was growing up, and I often want so desperately to be nurtured. But I know that's not the kind of T he is, and I can never get the mothering I missed out on, so it's just kind of a fantasy, of feeling vulnerable and cared for in that way.

I also never call him by his name. It would make our relationship feel more intimate than I'm ready for; weird, I know, given the fantasy I just described above

Off topic I know, but I make sure to call my kids sweetie and dear all the time. It kind of feels like fixing things, in a way.