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Originally Posted by Apteryx
I don't see why her reaction would necessarily be unrealistic or insincere, though. If I think of how I would react if somebody told me they hated a particular item of clothing I was wearing (ok, that's a bad example because I could not care less about what I wear, but say it was a book I was reading) I'd say it would depend entirely on who said it. And how they said it. And the context in which it was said.
Besides, there's a considerable difference between "I hate those trousers you are wearing" and "I hate your looks" or even "I hate the way you dress in general" (which could be interpreted to mean "You have no sense of style".)
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Maybe an example could be.....if you are invited to a dinner party. You like the host or envy her or what ever do to whatever issues you have. But when you say...without being asked...I donīt like what you have cooked for me, the dish you have chosen to cook when I was invited to your home etc.
And then the host say...oh that is a lovely thing to say

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I personally would get offended or sad whatever... and no this is not an example of a good relationship or intimacy. Nor EMPATHY