I went through the very same thing with my ex husband. It was stressful, hurtful, painful, embarrasing, concerning and made me broke.

I went forward, but it took so much hurt and pain and much more to do this. I divorced him.

Time, I realize you may not be in this place, or in a position to do this ...

I am not suggesting anything ... I only wish to let you know that I do understand .... the pain and hurt, along with the financial implications. It is not easy!! In fact, at best, it is utterly frightening!

My thoughts are with you!!