Tink, when my dad died of cancer, he had plenty of time to talk to me about what he thought of me, and never said a word. I craved his approval all my life and never got it. My mother told me that Dad told my brother how proud he was of him, and all kinds of other positive things. Me, nothing.

When a person passes there are all kinds of emotions and family dysfunction that can occur initially. It's been a year and I have (mostly) let go of these feelings of shame, anger, resentment and jealousy toward my bro and my mom. I know I got shortchanged in the whole process of his passing, and shunted aside because of my MI.

I guess what I'm trying to say is tht I understand how it feels to have unfinished business with someone who's gone, and resentment toward the family for what was and wasn't done. It still hurts, but is lessening along with the pain of losing Dad.

Many hugs to you, and keep posting. We want to support you.