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Originally Posted by lonelybychoice
Maybe an example could be.....if you are invited to a dinner party. You like the host or envy her or what ever do to whatever issues you have. But when you say...without being asked...I donīt like what you have cooked for me, the dish you have chosen to cook when I was invited to your home etc. 
And then the host say...oh that is a lovely thing to say .....
I personally would get offended or sad whatever... and no this is not an example of a good relationship or intimacy. Nor EMPATHY |
I'm sorry, but I don't think I managed to make my point quite clear. We don't know (well, I don't) CantExplain nor his therapist very well, and don't know what their conversations are like. We don't know the contexts. We cannot judge somebody else's conversational strategies based on what works for us personally. (Especially somebody who may or may not have a totally different cultural background.)
I might be offended if somebody I didn't know very well insulted my choice of reading in an offensive manner. I would probably not be offended if a close friend whom I trusted not to want to hurt me expressed a difference of opinion about something that's a matter of taste.
All I'm saying is that we can't look at somebody's report of a conversation and, based on our own culturally-specific interpretations of the context, judge the possible reactions of a third party who hasn't given their side of the story.