Rose you seem like such a positive blessing to folks. If you could go would you? Would they just bring you down because of the annoyance they bring along with them? My grandma (who's cold and raised me as an infant) does the same thing. She invites all the family except the less anointed ones because we don't kiss her butt. If we/ I could go and do some of these things if it compromises who I am and makes me live a lie trying to be a part of the elite I would just rather not be part of the group. Even if it is my own family. I don't know if this help any but know that you are not alone and and that I feel for you. It hurts to not be included and wanted no matter what the age.