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Originally Posted by LolaCabanna
Button, I think a discussion over boundaries with your T would be helpful. My xT did the whole mixed message thing as well, she would email me... But I wasn't to email her, or only when she wanted it... Very mind boggling.
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Originally Posted by button30
Its very confusing, isn't it? They of all people should have strong firm boundries with no room for mixed messages!
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On the topic of boundaries, I'm a huge boundary person. I like to know where the lines are and stay well away from them. My therapist purposely doesn't spell out the boundaries because he wants me to depend more (like calling/emailing). I still try to keep within what I think are reasonable boundaries and T has never complained....but I find it hard not knowing for sure what the boundaries are.
The last thing I want to do is to cross a line and then deal with the aftermath which would be embarrassing and very shaming.