Thanks so much for the responses

Cute story about the nephew, Genetic My older 2, the teens, hate school, I didn't get them help early enough and they really struggled, now both have bp dx, and we're just trying to figure out what to do with their lives.

But my youngest son, is doing really well. He had a speech impediment (couldn't pronounce "R's" rabbit was wabbit, was pretty cute) and graduated from speech class last year at age 10. He's still going to be getting help and going to special ed because he has a visual processing disorder and writing and reading are especially difficult for him. I've been having a little fight going on with the school regarding their lack of follow through on the promise to provide audio files to go along with his books. It's in his IEP, so I suppose I could sue them if I could muster up the time & energy.

The woman who made advances is not someone I need in my life, she is gorgeous, but I'm afraid she drinks too much, and she showed me her "pill stash" of morphine that I don't want to see. I don't even want to see my pills every day. I think I can just ignore her.

The second woman, the nurse with the dog, she used to be a much more stable seeming person. But her oldest son died earlier this year, he had schizophrenia and od'd on heroin. And her middle son was just put in jail for something unmentionable that I hope is untrue. And she's got this guy in Africa, claiming to be a millionaire from the US who she met on the internet, and she's sending him money, over $2k usd so far. About to send him $10k because he says he's wrongfully being held in some Nigerian prison! She believes all this and won't hear any advice about it. She's just a nurse, makes decent money, but not enough to send someone she doesn't even know $10k, wtf. I told her I'm concerned for her mental health and she seems out of touch with reality, but she won't hear it. So I'm willing to still try to be a friend to her, but I don't want the cold-calls to my home. I really like my private space, I live in the woods and don't like people to show up uninvited. I need to figure out how to say it to her effectively. Perhaps if I just repeat myself 20 times over and over she will finally hear it and respect it?

I could ask the bf for help. We don't live together, he goes out of town fishing and dirtbiking a lot. He's faithful, but he's a bit strange emotionally avoidant. But he's big & strong and has his own business, owns his own house, a bit older than me, respected in the community. I'm not sure how I could ask him to help?

The first woman, he will say it's my own problem I got into and to figure out how to get rid of her if I don't like her.

The second woman, he would probably be willing to tell her off and it would not be pretty, maybe he'd tell her "you're fired!" LOL....