And for the dismissive avoidant among us:

1. You feel like you may email or call your therapist if a huge crisis comes up.

2. If you do email your therapist, you don't immediately quit before seeing them again.

3. You don't cheer when your therapist talks about other patients or their own family members because you are afraid without those others they would be getting too attached to you.

4. You don't rush out on them. When the session is over, you don't tear out of the office and parking lot in order to get as far away as fast as possible.

5. You don't have to be absolutely afraid all the time of thinking they may like you. They can tell you they care without you concluding they are punishing you by telling you such.

6. You aren't constantly thinking of how to to fire them.

7. Your mind doesn't instantly turn to suicide at the thought of them being around too much.

8. You are comfortable showing lack of progress. You are more interested in your own wellness than being invincible to your therapist.

9. You don't alter your life just so you can avoid seeing your therapist. You don't deliberately seek a job offer in another state, you don't accept it just because you are afraid of going to the therapist.