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Originally Posted by Apteryx
I don't see why her reaction would necessarily be unrealistic or insincere, though. If I think of how I would react if somebody told me they hated a particular item of clothing I was wearing (ok, that's a bad example because I could not care less about what I wear, but say it was a book I was reading) I'd say it would depend entirely on who said it. And how they said it. And the context in which it was said.
Besides, there's a considerable difference between "I hate those trousers you are wearing" and "I hate your looks" or even "I hate the way you dress in general" (which could be interpreted to mean "You have no sense of style".)
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I think most people wouldn't laugh at someone poking fun at their clothes. Even if they don't care about their appearance. I don't really care about my looks either, but I wouldn't really appreciate hearing someone's unsolicited opinion about it. I wouldn't be mean to them, but I wouldn't laugh.
Honesty is great...until it hurts your feelings. I'm wondering if CE would appreciate that kind of honesty from his therapist. What if, in response to the comment about her pants, she said she hated his haircut? Why shouldn't she return the "favor"?
I think there's a big difference between being honest and being unabashedly opinionated.