I think what you really need to look at is why you are fighting his every suggestion so hard. If you won't take any of his suggestions, what DO you want from him? Maybe you need to figure that out and share that with him.

He's been backing off on contact and pushing you to make some major changes in your life. I know you've felt a bit abandoned by his change in tactics and boundaries.

Frustration is a strong emotion. Could you be balking at his suggestions to get more strong emotion from him because any personal emotion/attention from him, even negative emotion/attention, is better than none? What would it take to get positive feedback from him that would leave you with what you really want from him which is positive emotion/attention? THAT would take allowing yourself to actually work towards some of his suggestions. Otherwise, you are just going to stay stuck, which is probably where your T's frustration is coming from right now. You are stuck and resisting change for some reason: fear? anger? hopelessness?

He can't fix this for you. At this point it is in your court and he's frustrated watching you sit on the bench refusing to get up and play the game. He knows if you'd just get up and start moving in the right direction, your life would probably improve. My T once said it is frustrating to watch someone you care about not doing what you know they need to do.