I'm sorry MUE. For what it's worth, I think my T is implying the same thing (that I feel sorry for myself too much, or, for me, that my issues are not worth talking about. I'm glad your t didn't say that to you.). I have a LOT less immediate stress in my life right now than you do, and it still feels awful to hear t say things like that. I hope it helps a little to know you're not the only one whose t is saying stuff like that, and your t very obviously has less justification than mine does, since you've got so much on your plate.

The issue of getting a job (and figuring out what to do about your finances if you don't) is very concrete and I don't know how therapists can be helpful with that. They usually have such a long term approach- the client will deal with [whatever issue is on the table] when they're ready. I wonder if your t is feeling helpless. He pretty much is helpless I suppose- he can't do anything about getting you a job. If he patiently waits around in therapy to help you deal with whatever emotional issues might be making it difficult to find a job, obviously that wouldn't help you maintain the standard of living you want.

I wonder if anyone else on here had a good experience with getting support that was useful in therapy when they had a crisis that needed immediate action, like needing to get a job. I wonder how therapy helped.