Mixed who gives a flip what T says, so wallow for a bit. I agree with CE , single parent hood , unemployment those seem like real issues ... Just because T doesn't thinks it's as bad as it used to be doesn't me it doesn't feel bad. I think sometimes we need to wallow as long as we don't simmer in it for too long. Each day brings the chance for new things to occur. So when you your ready, pick yourself up and dust yourself off and get out there and prove your family wrong, not for them but for you. If your T did say it was "cake" he/she deserves an ear full. IMO