the killing with kindness and gifts and abusing me emotionally really got to me, tomi........everyone thought he was the perfect person. he sure appeared to be.

he did admit, during our divorce, that when ANYTHING happened where one or the other of us would look bad, he manipulated the situation so i always came off as the villian. i spent 16 years shaking my head and wondering what had just happened in those situations? that alone, will make a person think they are crazy.

so, respect and honesty for me is so important.