You know, it's easier said than done, putting the foot down.

For some reason, my daughter needs that sense of security of having someone else near her when she's sleeping. It's not going to change overnight. I can't just say "OK, tonight and every night from now on, you WILL sleep in your room."

I honestly thought she'd get tired of it. I thought once she wasn't at her dad's so much and feeling tense that she'd get over it. Nope. I thought once she was in high school she'd outgrow it. Nope. I thought once boys started getting interested in her that she'd outgrow it. Nope. Come on, who wants to have to hide the fact that you're almost 16, could have your driver's license soon, and you still sleep with your MOM?!

When I ask her why she has to sleep with me, she gives an excuse of "it's too hot in my room" (in the summer). She has a ceiling fan and a window. That shouldn't be a problem. In the winter it's "my room is too cold." I put a radiator space heater in there last year, the temperature was just fine. "My room's too messy." I cleaned her room. It took her a week tops for it to get right back to it's prior filthy state.

There's more going on than the temperature or cleanliness or lack thereof, but she's keeping mum on it.

And don't go suggesting therapy. Been there, done that. She refuses to talk.