Hi Lost,
I'm so sorry today was so difficult!
This whole situation makes me think that a consultation by an outside therapist might benifit you both! It seems like you guys have been tangled up in this for so long now and nothing is being repaired. You both seem so stuck. As the therapist, it is his response to examine his own frustrations and step back from the situation to objectively look at what's going on with you and why you might be resisting his efforts to help you. Clearly he's not doing that. The fact that he genuinely can't seem to hide his frustration time after time really bothers me. It would surely triger me if this were my therapist.
Getting a consultation would be what I would do in this situation. Hope this helps, and I do hope things get better!