Thanks, everyone.....everything is so swirly in my head right now. I imagine T is feeling frustrated with me because he sees me headed for a train wreck and only I can do something about that...and I'm at a standstill. Maybe he does feel helpless.

But considering the type of therapy that T does, focusing on feelings in the here-and-now, I would've expected that he would TELL me how he's feeling - instead of making statements that minimize what I'm going through.

We've been down this road before, and it seems that when T is feeling helpless, he goes off the deep end with how he treats me.

Maybe he needs to see a T about how to manage those feelings.....