I hope this doesn't sound bad, sometimes I don't phase things exactly as I mean them to be, so let me appoligize in advance.

I think you shouldn't "wish" for that one person to come along that would stand up to your family. I think you should "work" to become that person. Yes someone else can stand up for you, fight for you, but that will not give you the closure or the satisfaction that doing it yourself will bring you.