I sympathize with your situation ((LadyJane)). Over the yrs my husband has made our house open to overseas relatives and people who he's trying to impress or butt kiss. I'm left with the pressure of tolerating them, cooking for them and cleaning up after them. Some guests have been okay but one doctor pal he had was so annoying and I honestly hated him. He would never make his bed or come with pajamas to sleep in and he would leave them in a pile on the floor. I don't know what's the solution or say something politely to her.