Yes, lol Purple, you can ask. But the gf is a sometimes thing, just for fun, we haven't been intimate in many months. She's a single mom too, and dates men. I do have a commitment with my bf. The main prob with him is that he is great with my 10 yr old but doesn't love my older son... and I love my kids way more than I love him. Just how it is. So I really don't think I've found the right man yet.