It sounds like you need to get a different job out of that company. To start with.....I always hated working for women because all too often they were like your boss. I did fine in my engineering career because it was all men & we worked together very well.....but at the end, when I ended up out of the technical engineering, I ended up under a women & it was the most horrible experience.....I ended up having a complete breakdown & never could go back to work.

You shouldn't have to put up with that crap......sounds like you are doing the best you can given the circumstances......but the bottom line is that you shouldn't have to put up with that crap & I would definitely be looking for another job....doesn't sound like it's really a career, so if you can find some other job....I would say....go looking & go for a change....it can't be any worse then where you are.