okay, so you smoke pot? and that's a problem because? you're not clear about why you want to stop. do you have a reason to stop yet?

note: i'm neither condoning nor minimising your behaviour.

i haven't used drugs of any sort for some time now, but i kinda needed a reason(/s) (ie: consequences) to stop when i eventually did. once i found a good reason to stop, it made it a little easier. in other words, it may eventually be worse for you to use than it is for you not to use.

hey, i guess the penny that finally dropped for me was realising that i would NEVER be able to stop using TOMORROW. i had to find a way to stop TODAY. if i stopped today, there was a pretty good chance that i could stay stopped tomorrow. if i didn't stop today, it was gonna be damn near impossible to stop tomorrow.

regarding your question about parents finding out about NA: they won't find out, unless you tell them.

maybe give yourself a break, give yourself a chance and give NA, or some other program a bash, see if it works for you. maybe it does, maybe it doesn't. if you give it a try (for real) it will probably work.

best of luck!!!