Hi HB,
You have said in the past that your ex-h is a nice person, so I am assuming that he was trying to help you out with his comments. Maybe his delivery struck a nerve with you. On the other hand, you are no longer married, so if you were just looking for a friend to listen to your troubles, tell him this.
I am sorry that you can't sleep. I am on the same cycle myself. The drugs are helping a little bit, but not enough for me. I am going to recommit to exercising. I have let this slide since I have been moving.
Klonopin is one of the drugs I take for sleep along with trazedone. I am sorry that this doesn't help you at more.
One other thing, I view you as a very compassionate person, and perhaps this is why you only saw the cat's needs instead of changing the delivery day.
I hope you get back on a good sleep schedule soon!
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