I only discovered BPD back in February and have not yet been officially diagnosed, but when I read the traits the very first time it was like a light going off. It was a relief knowing that the lifelong problems I've had actually had a name and that I wasn't alone. I have had all nine traits at some time during my life. I am waiting for insurance to get straightened out to hopefully finally get some actual help. As for family, I've gotten no support at all. I showed the traits to my husband and attempted to explain how it fit me and he pooh-poohed it saying that depending on how you interpret the traits, anyone could be BPD. ~sigh~