Didn't you say you have already seen Frau T before?

If not I apologize...

I would be upfront with the woman, not too specific as sunrise said, but up front as I would hate for you to process the breast cancer and it begin to leak into other areas and her pull the rug out.

1.We are looking for someone who is in it for the long haul.
2. No deal breaker behaviors - ie. pornwatcher

I completely understand not being comfortable with women. I say give em both a fair shot and lay out the cards. You'll know.