1. The world is a dangerous place and if I trust the wrong person I will die a horrible death.

Fears:

people are violent and predatory-this is true of some people but not all
I am not able to defend myself-this is a preparable skill to some extent. I can improve my ability to defend myself.
death will be violent and painful-this is an unknowable thing
My safe place will not always be safe-this is also an unknowable thing
I am not safe in the world-I can do things to make myself safer in the world and listen to my instincts even when they contradict social norms.