"You mean to tell me you don't love me enough to keep thisw car clean for me. My responce was you don't love me enough to let me keep my car the way I want to. Again wrong answer. If you love me and you know this bothers me then why do you let this happen."

I'm a little confused if the above are quotes from each of you, or if they're general statements coming from one side (or both).

If your hub said, "You mean to tell me that you don't love me enough to keep this car clean for me?" and you replied, "You don't love me enough to let me keep the car the way I want to." Followed by him, "If you love me and you know this bothers me, than why do you let this happen?" ~~ My response would be that he's over-reacting. You shouldn't have to do everything that you can in life just to please the one you love. No couple agrees on everything! Both parties ought to be able to make some adjustments to their expectations of the other half.

If the words above are presumptions of what each party would say, than I would say that you're reading too much into the situation.

Regarding your list of chores, and his peeve about you being unable to clean on Saturday, my answer would be that he could certainly get off his high horse and pick up the mop and broom! It is common for a lot of men to still resist cleaning, but he could share SOME of the responsibilities. Laundry? Dishes? Floors? Oven and stove cleaning? It might give him a little more respect in all that you've done to keep the house in order, while living up to his other expectations and your children's needs.

Take care!