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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
Ok, who owns this house that you and your finance live in? Because if this is "his" home and you have no real claim to possession of it, then you are a guest in this home as well.
And your finance, does he see how "rude" his sister is being? And he doesn't say anything to her? Does he see how his sister is upsetting "your" sense of boundaries?
Because you had better pay attention to how he allows "his" family to cross "your" boundaries. This is very telling of how he "respects you"overall.
Who actually "pays" for these groceries? If "you" are the one shelling out the money then stop buying groceries and have the F buy them.
If this is "your" home and the F and his sister are taking over then you have even more right to be angry.
So it depends on who is owning and funding for this "sister in law to be" crossing boundaries. It sounds like she is used to crossing the boundaries of others and your F accepts this behavior. If he is going to be your partner then you and him need to talk. It is important that you don't "train him" that you are just going to allow his family to "invade on you".
Open Eyes
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We rent it together actually, both of our names are on the lease and we both pay for it.
He doesn't notice when someone upsets me, he doesn't pick up on little things like that.
I pay for the groceries, but since posting this I am working on him to get the balls to ask her for grocery funds. I don't know why it has to be such a fricken headache with him.
"It sounds like she is used to crossing the boundaries of others and your F accepts this behavior.' This couldn't be more true. It is sick really, the entire family tiptoes around eachother and their parents *never* correct their kid's actions. Probably never have either. They are all adults but none of them act like it.