I could have written part of that!

My son is almost 7 now, not my boyfriends biological son. They butt heads, but he's never called him an asshole. I understand your anger at that. Name calling isn't ok. I think you should explain your disapproval of that to your husband.

My daughter is almost 2 and my boyfriend has trouble with her too. She is *NOT* a daddies girl, and he feels left out.

Have you thought about speech therapy for your son? My son is going on his 3rd year and the improvement is AMAZING!

I can't help you with the overwhelming feeling. I feel it too. I hate it too. I'm in Southern Oregon I say we meet half way and take a BREAK