Yea. it happens but for some it happens quicker than most. For me it was a matter of death of the abuser, and in reference to the others it came down to I knew - that's it. it has finally came down to this person is going to kill me, well if Im going to end up dead then someone is going to know why I am dead upon my death. I knew I had nothing left to lose for I had already lost home after home, friends after friends, job after job and so on in my efforts to be free of the abuse. Just one day right after this abuser caused me pain and warned me to keep my mouth shut or he would kill me. I knew Im dead anyway if not physically or suicidally then mentally. I had no more to give and nothing left to lose. Since Im going to lose this fight I might as well take the abuser down with me so that what was happening to me would not happen to another person. I opened my mouth big - in prison inmate offender programs, governors task force, Jr high and high school classes, community agencies - churches, kwanis clubs, boy scouts, girl scouts, you name it0 college nursing , psychology, socioloy classes, newspaper article, workshops, community child abuse protection counsel. You name it. If it was within an hours drive of my location I was letting people know. Amazingly it took about 6 months to a year before word got back to my abuser and so on. I went through threats and so on but I figured hey, Im dead no matter what anyway so hide out with a friend and continue on with my making this world a better place for any and all children.

I was going to die at my abusers hands, I was done being afraid and running from state to state, town to town, city to city, going by this name, now that one, now another new name, Hey no matter where I went I was eventually found so obviously I was doing exactly what my abuser wanted me to do - keep my mouth shut and be afraid of him, and of death.

The end result - I took him down for he was warned by a lawyer that unless he wanted to be in jail my abuser was to stay clear of me, especially after the lawyer realized I was not the abusers only victim. The abuser moved out of my area and state. for once my abuser was the one on the run, instead of it not being save for me to live where I was, it was no longer safe or advisable for the abuser to remain. Not only did I take the abuser down but that town where I grew up are now doing right by complaints of ANY kind when a child comes forwards. In fact one person I went to school with is now sitting in jail for sexual abuse of minorS in that town, and those other abusers that made an attempt or two on me high tailed it for therapy and so on and made a point of contacting me so that I could varify they WERE getting the help they needed so that they would not harm another child. they my one or two time abusers were afraid of ME and that I would blow them out of the water too. LOL